Fiotts... aka, the RL wedding thread!

Yay weddings!

!!!!!!!!!!

Poor Otts... he actually PMed me to ask if he should avoid NB. I told him to stop being silly. He actually doesn't want to know any dress details.

Fiat - when's the big day? We're getting married in October!!!! :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

Oh wow, October!!! What a great month!!!! We're looking at July 2009, esp. since we're planning a Califorina wedding from Canada. :shock:

I need to find those dress links again and repost them.

Yeah - we both LOVE the fall so there was never any doubt about the time of year! We're getting married at the beach and October will be still nice out but not stiffling hot!

WOW - that's a long distance to have to plan from - are you using a coordintor?

How is Otts not getting in this thread exactly?

Nora - Otts *can* get into the thread, but he won't. 1) He avoids shipper forums, and 2) He knows I'm DYING for girly chat. The only real big "secret" would be gown talk, and he said even if he stumbles on it, he won't look at links.

TV - sounds soooo nice! No, no coordinator right now. A good chunk of my family live in the area where we're getting married and, all things considered, it's gonna be a low-key affair. Might need someone to play referee on the day of, but I'm so not there yet.

Are you getting married AT the beach or ON the beach?

ON the beach!! We both LOVE the beach and decided that was our DREAM wedding idea! Plus unbelievable it's cheaper to travel four hour to the beach and get married than to get married in Atlanta!

Yeah - the main reason I got a coordinator is that I can go down there all the time and handle details. But you have family to do that for you! :)

Exactly! But I don't want to burn anyone out, so I really hope they tell me if things ever get out of hand.

What am I saying? It's a wedding - of COURSE things will get out of hand at some point.

OH YEAH!!! I've been saying the keyword of my wedding is fun and that it will be relaxing - and up until a few weeks ago it was relaxing - but now the "REAL" planning is starting - it's stressful afterall! :o

hey TV.. yay for October wedding!! congrats

fiat - lots of plans etc.. let me know if there's anything I can help with :P

Thanks DIA!!! We're are so happy and excited! I'm made the right choice this time!!! 8-)

It's the golden rule of weddings - all HELL breaks loose at some point. Which degree of Hell depends on the family (for mine it was the 9th circle LMAO :o ).

I've told my other half that IF (see the capitals LOL) we ever married I like the idea of February 29.....oh, and a full moon....oh and on a beach......at midnight.....

The bugger went & worked out apparently we could do EXACTLY that in the year 2056 :shock: :? :shock:

Hell, maybe we should fly to Vegas.......................

Even though I may be adverse to ME getting married again (as much due to family trauma as anything else) I can live through TV & Fiat :mrgreen:.

GLORI WROTE:It's the golden rule of weddings - all HELL breaks loose at some point. Which degree of Hell depends on the family (for mine it was the 9th circle LMAO :o ).

I remember Hubby and I, in the midst of hell week (that would be the one directly before the wedding when there are all those damn last minute plans and stupid little details to be worked out... and all just as the ENTIRE family is arriving blah blah blah), wondering why the hell we hadn't eloped in Elvis' Chapel 'o Love in Reno. Of course, in the end we are glad that we didn't, although we have several things that we would go back and change (like the officiant going on for 45 minutes about when and how she met me and my mother). Oy.

At least it didn't rain.

dia - thank you! :)

GLORI WROTE:It's the golden rule of weddings - all HELL breaks loose at some point. Which degree of Hell depends on the family (for mine it was the 9th circle LMAO :o ).

I have a sneaking suspicion it will involve one of my sisters.

Otts and I sat down last night to look over the packages offered by a couple of places we are considering (trying to narrow options down to 3-4). Dear JOSS, why do you have to pay so much for good food??? And interestingly enough, Otts almost has more expensive tastes than I do.

Fiat- Congrats!!! Rule number 1. Dont burn yourself out. Try not to stress, everything will fall into place..Even the dress issue... When the wife and I got hitched we made it fun...well when we did stuff it was fun...when my mother and sisters were around i wanted to stick a spoon in my eye :lol: ....Good luck... it will all be gravy lady!!

Dont wear green!!!!! :o

I'd also possibly avoid the burlap bags with lava too :? . Unless of course you move the wedding to some active volcano somewhere nearby....then go for it :lol: .

I'm late for the planning party here but may I suggest that you have a dog as a ring bearer? I think Nora would look so cute walking down the aisle on all fours, wagging her tail :P You can hand out 'pooper scoopers' to everyone as they enter the church :P We can decorate them with ribbons and lilacs :P There's a case of Vaseline in this for you if you take my suggestion ;)

P.S........this is one of the last known cases of Vaseline to exist in the world!!!!!!!

MYTH WROTE:I'm late for the planning party here but may I suggest that you have a dog as a ring bearer? I think Nora would look so cute walking down the aisle on all fours, wagging her tail :P You can hand out 'pooper scoopers' to everyone as they enter the church :P

SORRY-- pETE wENTZ ALREADY DID that AT HIS SHOTGUN NUPS TO ASHLEE LIP SYNC.

I know but Nora will be be cuter with her wet nose and styled fur!!!! I particularly like the idea of the decorated 'pooper scooper'. We can havw 'Fiotts' engraved on it with the wedding date....nice souvenir of the nuptials :P

Oh, for the Love of Joss, must every thread become about Nora and her dog-like qualities? :roll: ;) :lol:

That engraved pooper scooper idea is brilliant! I wonder if Pete and Ash had those.

Now, can we get back to the girlie wedding chat?!

Fiat - where in California are you getting married. I worked a few wedding in the SF Bay Area and know some wonderful locations, etc. (Avoid the Oakland Rose Garden in July. The bees are insane!)

Is there a set wedding date? If there are any guests flying in for the nuptials they better get their tickets NOW. The airline fares are going to go crazy in another two months!

SS, you do realize you accused me of having "dog like qualities"..... :(

whereas Myth has flea like qualities. *slaps Myth really hard in the head* keep it out of Fiat's wedding thread psycho!

Well, if I can find an indigo rhinestone collar... ;)

*falls over laughing* oh man, I LOVE you guys!! And how cool is it that Doc posted!!

SS - gonna be an Contra Costa County wedding at the church I more or less grew up in. Venues for the reception are a different matter. :roll: Gonna be in town at the end of July to deal with all that. Research now, narrow down to 3 or 4 places now, and then visit/evaluate/sign contracts! I'm very open to suggestions - drop me an IM if anything good comes to mine!

(One of my sisters got married in that rose garden... don't remember the month, tho.)

Myth - late July 2009 is the date. We're hoping for the July 25, but I refuse to make that official until I have the locations signed. Then we're gonna have to play a bit loose with etiquette rules: I think we're gonna email people the date so they can start planning NOW and then send "Save the Date" cards in January.

BAD day of dress shopping - ok well I've found what I WANT but I'm having trouble with it. Long detailed story - involves far away location and non-convienint hours - and I'm running out of time! :roll:

I SO did not want stress with this wedding.

Do you have a designer and model number? Do you know what size you need to order it in? Try RK Bridal. I'm told they are excellent and can sometimes ship very quickly. http://www.rkbridal.com

Or maybe this site: http://www.houseofbrides.com/home.php?cat=1134 The dresses in this section are supposed to ship in 4-6 weeks.

Just set up my first appointment to go try on dresses while we're out in California! :shock:

I'm excited, but I'm a little wigged.

If you weren't wigged I'd be concerned. The Dress is a major part of the whole getting married thing. Don't know why, since it's not really a part of the marriage, but it's one of those things you want to look really good in... even if you are only going to wear it once. When I was trying on dresses I kept looking in the mirror thinking, "will this one make his tongue roll out of his mouth?" Buying my dress was like that friends episode. I was outlet shopping with a good friend and we found The Dress but so did another lady in the dressing room and my friend literally ripped the damn thing out of her hands. That's what friend are for.

So wig on Miss Fiat!

*falls over laughing*

I'm inviting my Mom, one of my sisters, one of my nieces, and two friends to come with me. (Probably too many people, but I highly doubt everyone will be able to make it.) Part of my thinks I'm crazy to invite said sister along, but I know that she'll be a splash of cold water if I start straying over my budget. Besides, Mom will be there, so she'll have to behave! :mrgreen:

Fiat - I just wanted to say congratulations! Can't believe you two are getting married! Granted it's been yonks since I spoke to you, but still - WOW! Congrats again xx

Vibes - You got married? I mean YOU got married? My whole belief system just flew out the window!

Birdgirl was supposed to be getting married too, in June, but she hasn't updated her Facebook status from 'Engaged' so I have no idea if it actually went ahead.

Back from holidays and boy, did we get a lot done! We now have a reception location booked and the church pencilled in... which means we have a DATE!!!!

I also tried on wedding dresses for the first time. weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! :mrgreen: Of course the two that looked the best on me were both about $300 over my budget. I'm gonna keep looking up here in Canada, but if I can't find anything better, I'm going to have to adjust the budget to cover the cost. I was already toying with making my own jewelry, maybe I could make my headpiece, too.

Did you look on that site? Anything strike you at all?

FIATLUX WROTE:Back from holidays and boy, did we get a lot done! We now have a reception location booked and the church pencilled in... which means we have a DATE!!!!

I also tried on wedding dresses for the first time. weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! :mrgreen: Of course the two that looked the best on me were both about $300 over my budget. I'm gonna keep looking up here in Canada, but if I can't find anything better, I'm going to have to adjust the budget to cover the cost. I was already toying with making my own jewelry, maybe I could make my headpiece, too.

My sister and I both made our own head pieces. I got lucky in that my dress was ruined by this wacky train made of veil material, so I used that. Bought a headband, covered it in satin (this was pre-satin headbands, obviously), attached some bead sand rhinestones and voila! My sister wanted little pearls sewn onto hear veil... which I wound up doing for 3 hours on the morning on the wedding. It saved her about $100, but it was painful for moi.

Anyway, congrats on all the new developments!

NORA WROTE:Did you look on that site? Anything strike you at all?

Only about 1/3 of them on the site! LOL Actually, the prices really surprised me - some of the ones they tossed on me at the bridal shop were over $200 EACH. :shock: I might start haunting the site and watch for sales.

Sups - yay for DIY, although last minute isn't very fun. I'm a beginning-to-intermediate beader, so if I started by January, I could probably create my own crystal thingy for my hair... the biggest challenge is finding a pattern! Otherwise, I had better start playing now and figure out what looks good and what doesn't.

Okay, Otts won't look at the thread, but I'm gonna put a big ol' SPOILER notice and picts of two current favs in the dress department:








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http://www.moonlightbridal.com/Images/Product/H9804_AD.jpg
http://www.moonlightbridal.com/Images/Product/H9804_B.jpg

and this one

http://elegantbridalattire.com/Maggie%20Collection/Glorianna.jpg


(took down the picts, but the links are still good)

OMG they are lovely!!!!

No Nap likes the first one. He said the beads were "gorgeous!"

You would look stunning even in Green and Burlap.

I am so happy for you sweetie.

awwwwwwwwwwww, thanks Ramones! Tell No Nap that my mom also likes the first one, so he's in good company!

(weeeeeeeeeeeee, green and burlap!! :mrgreen: )

Sups - I bought some tulle over the weekend to play around with. They even had patterns on sale, so I picked up one for 6 different veils for less than $4.

Another dress update!

Went and tried on dresses this past weekend. It was completely unplanned: I was wandering around downtown and decided to see if I could find this mother-daughter salon I had read about and see if it was worth making an appointment. Found it and they had just finished a rush of brides and it was EMPTY. Before I knew it, I was being tossed into gowns. Found two there that I really liked. I can't find a picture of the first one, but I did find this one:

http://www.alfredangelounitedkingdom.com/Collections/ProductDisplay.aspx?productID=d358bdd3-fed3-42be-bbb5-71f975d3c221&categoryID=0fb8d3ca-5030-43bb-9e1b-90ffb001ae14&pg=0

Both were lovely on me and sooooooooooooooooo much more in my price range. I would have liked a bit more embellishment on the trains of both, but I think a seamstress could probably help with that.

So the dilemma: do I just get some gal pals to go back with me and choose from there, or do I go out to ONE MORE place? (There's a huge bridal mall about half an hour from me that everyone around here swears I should check out.)

Much like buying a house or a car, it is never a bad idea to go to that last place because if you don't you will always have a little buyer's remorse about not having gone.

Gosh I hope that made sense.

On the other hand, that dress on the web site is absolutely gorgeous. And I see lots and lots of wedding dresses at my resort. That one is embellished but simple. That's always a good thing. Seen many a dress that has stolen the show from the bride, which is an odd odd thing.

That completely made sense, thank you! Part of me feels like it's insane to go 20 million places when I have already seen things I love... but the other part of me thinks that I'm only going to do this ONCE and I want to enjoy it. But when you put it like that, it reminds me that at the bottom of things, this *is* a large purchase and it would be more like me (and smarter, IMO) to make sure I do all my research before putting my money down.

Exactly. What if this last place has the "same dress" for a bit less money. I love fantasy and romance as much as the next gal, but there's something to be said for a bit of practicality and moderation, especially when weddings involve so many purchases.

But in the end, go with the dress that makes you feel you at your most beautiful.

(Safe post, nothing truly spoilerish in here.)

So, I went to the "huge bridal mall" on Saturday morning with my soon-to-be mother in law and sister in law. (Great women, both of them.) hehehe, story time.

This place is a 45 minute drive from where we all live, but this region is more the kind where you have a big city and suburbs that are separated by farmland, so that didn't concern me. Pulled off the interstate (uh, wait, we don't have states... the interprovincial highway) onto a country road. No big, esp. since I had directions and sister-in-law knew where we were going. Thank God she did, cuz I would have driven right past it - it was on a "country corner" and looked like an cross between a large single story house and a short barn. :shock: I freely admit it, at this point I filed the trip into the "well, this will be fun and I'll just get serious again next week" category, even though this place is big enough that it takes out ads in bridal magazines and EVERYONE around here knows about it.

The place opens and it turns out our consultant was running late, but we were told that we could start looking around, not a problem. My jaw dropped - I don't know how they did it, but they crammed HUNDREDS of dresses into this place - bridal gowns, bridesmaids/formal dress, "mother of the bride" dresses (which were hideous), flower girl / First Communion dresses, etc, etc. etc. Our consultant arrived about ten minutes later and we jumped into it. I must have tried on a dozen dresses; some were bad enough that they didn't warrent me leaving the dressing room, some were nice, and 2 were real possibilities.

The consultant was FABULOUS. She zeroed in on what I was looking for, respected my price range (she even warned me when she was bringing something that almost hit the top point), and she remembered little things like me mentioning that my Mom's input was that she liked the back of the dress to be as interesting as the front. And we were allowed to take pictures, too! :o :D :mrgreen:

Anyway, the last dress.... oh!!! I want to show the picts to my Mom first, but it's the dress! I'll post more spoiler-y detail later!

Yay Fiats. Glad you found THE DRESS. Also glad you had a little girl bonding adventure with the future in-laws.

[i]does a happy little perfect dress dance and exits{/i}

Spoiler!!!
(I think after this post, it should be pretty safe for Otts to read on!)

So.... I bought the dress!! I've got picts of me trying it on, too! It's obviously not the right size and the pictures don't do it justice, especially the train. But I'm in love with it. It's a weird feeling to think that I have actually purchased THE dress.

Front:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v43/fiatlux/wedding/Picture133.jpg

Back:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v43/fiatlux/wedding/Picture125.jpg



And just because I know it's not all about me... *HUGS* to TV. Keep breathing, hon!

Spoilery response!

That is one beautiful dress. I love the way it laces up the back. And the detail on the train. And it flatters your figure. Otts is one lucky man. (And not because of the dress.)

And this is the first time I've seen a picture of you so it's like double coupon day for me.

hehehehe, I hadn't thought about that. I'm a bit more protective of pictures of myself than most people, but that's partially cuz I usually HATE pictures of myself.

And thank you! :D I'm really loving being able to share pictures.

Thanks Fiat!!! :)

And I LOVE your dress!! It's beautiful!!!!!!!!